Have you YOYO’d before? Like, gone up 10, lost 5, gone up 15, lost 10, then 25 more went on?
Familiar with the cycle?
I am no stranger either. 5 years ago I weighed 30 lbs. less than I do now. In the mind of my former self, that would feel debilitatingly devastating. But today, as I slide into my XL panties, I celebrate how I feel in my body.
Yes, I still have chronic pain.
Yes, I still have overwhelming bouts of fatigue.
Yes, I still lose my ability to walk.
And no, this does not make me any less of a person.
What I do feel, when I look in the mirror, is that there is a vibrant, soul-infused woman who has gained strength and learned to integrate into the obstacles life can throw at you.
So I celebrate my body. I love on it. I rest it when it needs to be rested.
An additional 30 lbs. is a lot of weight - just grab your 25-pound bag of Epsom salts to see (if you don’t have soaking salts you must grab one here). But the me that was tinier was frailer, was beaten down and broken. And that persona, projection or person was not serving me.
Some of the greatest feedback that I’ve gotten from my clients is that they’re loving how their bodies feel, even when they don’t fit society’s standards.
This is the goal, my friend - to love on ourselves even when we look different. Why? Because you are a beautiful human, equal to all. Your looks don’t matter. Your care for self does.
I celebrate going from an unhealthy size S (one that I thought validated me) to a healthy size L/XL. You can, too.
Now, I do want you to be in a healthy weight range, one that keeps your organs from suffocating in fat, one that keeps your heart healthy, and one that allows you to move through the world with a sense of freedom, one that provides an extra pep in your step, and one that puts an extra glide in your vibe.
But moving beyond health, your feelings about your weight are paramount. The lens that you look at your body through (the “I am beautiful no matter what anyone says” lens) is the key component here.
It actually builds resonance in the world. It aligns your energy. It protects your body.
So I ask you, are you ready to throw your weight around?
If that feels too risky, let’s try a loving silhouette exercise. I teach this to my clients who struggle with looking in the mirror.
5 Steps to Love Your Silhouette:
- Make sure you have a quiet space to reflect (like after the kids are in bed and maybe your hubby or partner is out). Create some mood lighting around your full-length mirror (soft, dim light - candles work great or salt lamps are fab).
- Take off all your clothes and stand in front of the mirror.
- While looking at yourself, notice how you feel, commit that to memory, then say, “I love you, you beautiful, amazing Goddess!”
- Grab your comfy cozies (I love my soft cotton robe) and grab your journal. Write down #allthefeels.
- Then lie there and just breathe in the space of your body. Notice your sense of presence.
This is all you need to do, love. Start integrating the love of your body just the way it is!
You are loved - every shape and size you are, all of you, inside and out!
Hugs and love,
Shaun Lean Talon Earring - Get it here!