Manifestations

My Clients Aren’t Bullied by Their Size

Why My Clients Aren't Bullied by Their Size Blog CarrieMontgomery.com

Walk into three different department stores and chances are, you’ll “be” three different sizes.

What a mental trip. Seeing the number 8, then 6, then 10 on the tag can be devastating for many women, because we subconsciously believe that our value and worth depends on our size.

Often, we’ll flee the store feeling like we’re less than, because nothing fits the way we expect it to. It puts us in a crappy mood.

Of course, it’s impossible for you to be three different sizes, so what size are you??

Enter: The Kinda-Sorta Fit - a flaw of modern day fashion… AKA FAST FASHION.

Sadly, this kind of experience happens all the time with my clients. One woman was so frustrated, because she thought she knew her size. Yet, in the dressing room, she had to try on piles of clothes in various sizes. Leaving her feeling confused.

Remember: the self-esteem you’re cultivating by creating a signature style has NOTHING to do with the number on the tag. Sure, it’s important to know your size, but be okay with the fact that you might be an 8 in one store, a 6 in another, and a 4 somewhere else (we call it, the range). Sizing doesn’t just mean the number on the tag – it depends on how the manufacturer cuts clothing.

Your size does not equal your worth.

Please don’t feel bad about your body when you try on clothes, because the difference in size is not a reflection of your value. It’s just a system to measure cloth.

Have you seen the show, This is Us? Kate wants to fit into a size seven. The way the scene is shot leads us think that it won’t fit, because she’s so accustomed to feeling bad about her body. Her character doesn’t know how to feel good about her shape. So, she couldn’t wear the dress that actually fit her at a size seven and instead reinforced the negative body image and tried on a size five.

Guess what? Clothes aren’t made to fit you.

We kind of get lost in that idea that I’m a size 8 and all size 8 pants and dresses should fit, right? When they don’t fit, it’s so easy to get stuck in a loop of negative self-talk. Standing in your underwear with those awful bright lights in the dressing room.

But, here’s the problem with mass-produced fashion:

The clothes aren’t made to fit your body perfectly; they’re made to kinda-sorta fit everyone.

I know. It sounds too simple to be true. Just think about it.

There’s no template for all clothing manufacturers to use anymore. The sizing system was created to mass-produce clothing, so they can sell the most pieces. Since there’s only one of you, there’s no way a garment right off the rack is going to fit perfectly.

Before the Industrial Revolution, most people didn’t have a ton of clothes. The pieces they had were created specifically for them, which means they rocked each look because they were tailor made!

I can’t tell you how often women ask me for style advice (like everywhere I go).  I get it, you want to look good and feel good, but you can’t find a pair of jeans that doesn’t give you muffin top and still fit your hips and legs.  We call this an apple shape, because the midsection is much smaller than the hips.

I always say “go up in size… fit the widest part of you and let your tailor take in the rest.”

Finding a tailor you love and trust is key to looking your best. So, is learning how to shop for your shape. Both steps are crucial to making sure that what you’re buying is going to flatter your body.

This is your chance to relish in the fact that there’s no one like you! When you alter clothing to fit your shape, you’re owning and claiming the piece as yours, right? Since we all know that once you’ve decided on your style; you’ve taken the first step to authenticating your true self, this is something that just has to happen. It’s a key part of the process.

And wow. If that’s not empowering, I don’t know what is!

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The next time you go shopping, you’ll hear my voice in your head to help avoid this loop of negativity.

How to Use Style Micro-Manifestations to Get What You Want

Carrie Montgomery How to Use Style Micro-Manifestations to Get What You Want Blog CarrieMontgomery.com

Do you wake up with a million things to do, mind racing while running out the door? You might be a slow to roll gal taking your time to get out of bed with a meditation and writing practice as your morning routine?

I love to check in with my body. It sets the tone for the day for me, so I know how to treat myself. I don’t want to find myself with the foot on the gas pedal when my tank is empty.

Adjusting my style lens… the spectacles that I look at my body with has been revolutionary for me and my clients.

I like to start my day with something I call, Micro-Manifestations. It’s a way of listening to your inner voice. These manifestations end up making you look and feel good when you show up to the yoga mat or a Discovery Call. When you’re in the right mindset, the world is yours. You can magnetize whatever you want.

This is a perfect time to start putting these manifestations into place. You are primed and ready for change like the leaves changing colors.

How to Use Style Micro-Manifestations to Get What You Want

It begins with knowing how you want to feel. Then you can use style to create those feelings NOW. The best part? All of this information is already inside you. Just close your eyes and listen. Ask your body what it needs?

When you’re present, big changes can happen on the smallest levels.

Cue that email pining your inbox asking you to speak at your dream event.

Here the phone ring inviting you to take the lead at work.

Bump into a friend at the market who’s been on your mind for weeks.

These manifestations start with the most basic choices and stretches outward far beyond your outfit choices.

When you meet the needs of your body on a micro-manifestation level, it sets in motion a cascade of positive events. Adorn and serve your body, because this allows you to open the door to something greater. You can activate that greatness, because you have a super strong foundation in place.

Even if you don’t know what you want right now, by just focusing on these micro-manifestations, you’ll get there. Sounds crazy, but it’s true. You'll be shown the way and because you’re listening to your body and giving her what she needs, this allows you to RECEIVE.

Know that old saying, “Fake it till you make it?” It sort of applies here, too. Except this isn’t just your outfit – it’s your energy and emotions.

Here’s How This Process Works:

When you magnify your soul, the world can see you without the chaos created from your mind. Without insecurities clouding your world, it’s a clear, direct filter to your energy.

Basically, cast yourself in the role of your vision. See yourself selling your idea to the world and feel them getting excited about it. You can sell that vision because you believe in yourself. It’s an inner and outer manifestation. It sounds crazy, right? Way too simple. But trust me, it works.

Let’s Work Through an Example:

You need to feel: CONFIDENT THAT YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING:

Type of situation: Job Interview, Getting on Stage, Sales Conversation

Step 1: Where are you feeling fear, anxiety, or unease in your body around this upcoming situation? Often people experience fear in the stomach.

Step 2: Pick an article of clothing that will give you support and reinforcement in this area of your body. For example: high-waisted pants or a wide belt.

Step 3: Ask yourself where do you feel love in your body? When you’re a heart-centered person and you start projecting your passion and love, that energy is going to be communicated out into the world.

Step 4: Pick an article of clothing or piece of jewelry to enhance the feeling of passion. You can enhance that area either by using a piece of jewelry or by wearing a deep V-neck, which would help you signal to the world that you’re energetically embracing self-love. It’s a small micro-manifestation. It almost makes you overly conscious of the need to project love. Look for something to enhance and highlight the heart area.

Step 5: Add a comfort layer that you can decide to shed when it’s time or keep on depending on how you feel in the moment. You can wear a really high-quality cashmere wrap sweater or wrap your body in a way that it feels safe and protected. It’s okay to toe the line here a bit. I mean, we can’t always walk around in performance mode. It’s not sustainable. Instead go with the flow of your cycle and seasons. Knowing when to serve your body, so that you can get to that next level is super important. Everyone's going to feel vulnerable and nervous. It's okay to have an extra layer, and then right before you get on stage, you take that layer off. We want to see you!

Step 6: Show up and shine. Release and receive. You’ve dressed the part, supported your energy, and now it’s time to let the energy do the rest.

Every day we have a choice. We choose how we adorn our bodies. We choose what we’re going to project. Micro-manifestations seem like really small actions, but when you start using them on a daily basis, you’ll be amazed at the results. It’s as if what you begin to project to the world is completely refreshed. You feel stronger, fiercer, clearer.

This, my love, is The Somatic Dressing Method™.  It’s about consciously stepping into your body to meet its needs, so you can shine. It’s the foundation for my signature program, Create Your Soul Style.  Grab your Top Ten Tips to Revolutionize Your Style to start getting what you want.

XO,

Carrie