We just spent the past 10 days in the Cotswolds UK with my family riding horses and chillaxing together. We went back to our roots, I grew up in London and spent my weekends in the countryside (the beautiful Cotswolds Hills) riding.
There’s something magical about visiting your past with a renewed spirit. I’m gonna be honest, as amazing as my childhood was, there were some events that had a lasting, traumatizing impression on me. I’ve spent years reclaiming my body. This was the first time my mother, brother, and I have been here together since 1986. *hand over mouth*
The most beautiful part of the whole experience was bringing my 11-year old niece to the place where my family had amazing memories. She got to experience everything we did as a child. All the empowering experiences of being on a horse in the pure, fresh, open air (she’s been riding for 3 years) and taking the risks and adventures we did.
I saw her grow and evolve in ways I never imagined, overnight. To me, she embodies more independence, strength, self assurance in her body. I watched anxieties melt away and I knew when I needed to give her a mothering hug (her mum was back in Vancouver working). I got to play Auntie, my favorite Otherhood role!
My favorite quote of the week was, “I can’t go to the party looking like this.” My niece knows self care!!
We had a moment of frustration when she couldn't find her ankle socks, you know the ones that don’t show when you where sneakers and shorts? Then she went straight into a melt down spewing, “I have nothing to wear!” and 3 outfit changes later,” I asked her, “What’s really going on?”
She said, “I miss my Mom.”
I gave her a warm smile and that mothering hug she really needed. We just sat and breathed.
Now, my niece knows how to get dressed, she just needed some attention and affection.
Post hug, I asked her, “How do you want to feel?”
She said, “Elegant, feminine, fun, and relaxed.”
Okay, I can work with this! And we got dressed! Simple jeans shorts, Vans slip on sneaks, and a striped, shoulderless, Zara shirt. It was a dress up, dress down look!
It got me thinking, the way we were taught to dress is all wrong. It’s so disconnected from how we feel and how we want to feel. Trends take over and we often try to just fit into the latest threads that are being sold all over the marketplace. Or, we give up and claim our style from a time in history and stay there, grasping at how it used to be.
The way we break down style in our world is so confusing. When I used to search for clothes for my clients, I sometimes think how the hell do people know what to buy? There is sooooo much out there to choose from.
What is style really?
Style is about communicating who you are to the world. It’s where your inner world meets the outer world.
I believe personal style is about curating your life's preferences, needs, and desires.
It’s a feeling that speaks for itself.
Words cannot describe it.
Personal style comes from knowing yourself and what feels beautiful to you.
It’s a form of communication.
It’s a visual representation of who you are.
I am committed to creating a SOUL STYLE REVOLUTION & so much more in the coming months. I want you to look good, that’s for sure, but as a woman who cares deeply about the experience of humans here on earth, I want you to feel good, too.
Look good vs. feel good, that is the question here.
So, let’s try something. When you get dressed, check in with your needs for the day.
Do you want to feel more go with the flow?
Then put on a flowy dress.
Do you want to feel strong and confident?
Then throw on a great, structured shirt, your favorite jeans, and a great pair of pumps. GO, rock it!
Do you want to just relax and let go?
Then grab those sweats and some sneakers, go for a walk, shake it off, and give your body some space.
The biggest secret to having your own SOUL STYLE REVOLUTION is found inside your body. Yes, your body knows all your secrets that desire to be expressed. Find them, feel them, set them free. Don’t get trapped in a style rut by wearing the same thing every day. Find your spot of freedom of expression.
Let’s get back to the basics here.
I am creating a SOUL STYLE REVOLUTION. I want you to join me.
As I write this, I’m curled up at my friends house in the countryside. My body is relaxing and resting. My body wants to cuddle up with a cup of tea and a good book.
I have on my high waisted jeans (that have a little extra stretch in them), a soft cotton tank top, cozy warm socks (it’s raining), and a great velor hoodie!
I want to hear from you. How is your soul style going to make you feel today? Leave a comment below. I can’t wait to learn more about your soul style and celebrate you!
Lots of love,
THE HEART & SOUL OF STYLE
COMES FROM THE INSIDE OUT.
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