Body Shape

A New Chapter

A New Chapter Blog Carrie Montgomery

The past 5 years, I’ve spent my time in Maine honing my niche, sharpening my skills, building my business, creating a global network, and getting healthier. The biggest thing that has guided me in this process is my body.

Yup, that thing we wake up to every day and have to negotiate with on how the day runs. Sometimes we knock it out of the park, sometimes we take a nap, sometimes we worry and cry, but we always come back to our bodies limits.

I created a service called The Body Brand just for this reason. The entrepreneurial journey is hard. I help women show up with embodied confidence and true comfort. We use clothes to support the process, style to express, and key tenants of branding and marketing to bring out the best in each and every woman. This is how I’ve been able to show up big consistently for my tribe and clients.

While I love Maine and I have no real reason to leave, I’m leaving. It’s time for me to step into a more non traditional journey. I know, a little crazy.

Tomorrow I will be moving out of my amazing home that I created over the past year. I was able to heal major life heart aches here and get stronger and more independent. Yes, independence is a luxury in the land of chronic illness.

If you have been keeping up with my journey over on Instagram the past few months, you’ll know I went to Spain for my birthday. It was transformative and soul fulfilling. You can see my pre-departure post, I’m Going to Listen.

I feel called to step into the journey of the unknown and MOVE THERE! Yes, my body and soul spoke so loudly to me on my journey that I must follow the calling. If you missed my Lessons of Bohemian Adventure from my trip, have a look.

The past few months have been filled with deep self-reflection and taking massive action. I am still in the Visa process, but my plan is to stay for one year.

My intention for women is to live full, bold, powerful lives. This means I must be a leader and pave the way. I welcome you to stay tuned to follow my journey on what’s to come. This is the unfolding of a soul’s journey.

Since I was raised in the UK, I have always felt like a foreigner in America. There are great benefits to living in the United States, but I’m ready to trade in the benefits for an unknown, bright future.

As I support myself on this journey it is clear that there are 3 tenants I am living by:

  1. Self Directed Leadership

  2. Acceptance of Reality

  3. Trusting Myself

I wish these for every woman, too. Insecurity, fear, doubt, fogginess, resentment, and many other draining emotions can stop you in your tracks. But, I promise you there is a bright, colorful world out there to explore. There are people to support to creative effective lasting change in the world.

What it means to be a SELF DIRECTED LEADER.

This is following your wisdom. Knowing that the steps you are taking are right. And yes trusting yourself. Leaders are embodied, they are powerful and effective. They influence others in a positive way.

What it means to be in ACCEPTANCE OF REALITY.

When you accept what is, you have the opportunity to settle, find peace with how your current situation is. This is alignment. We must align with our ourselves BEFORE we reach to the stars. This means accepting our bodies as they are, accepting our family as they are, accepting our friends as they are. Find peace, but don’t lose hope of your dreams. Just don’t make yourself wrong for not being there yet. And take a risk here and there!

What it means to be in full TRUST OF MYSELF.

I have a habit of reaching out to others for help. I’ll forgo my own instinct to hear someone else’s opinion. There is value in experts, but to be a truly SELF DIRECTED LEADER you MUST TRUST YOURSELF. Find your own process to create your own dialogue and evidence system, so you can build that trust.

We have one life to live (and maybe many lifetimes) but you got this one body in this time. Live it to the fullest. I know that I am by taking this BIG LEAP by starting a new chapter in SPAIN.

I’ll still be writing you, I’ll still be creating, but I know things will change. If you’d like to receive little love notes on my journey, click the link to be added to “LOVE NOTES.” These notes will come out over my journey to share the findings and adventures.

Let’s stay connected throughout this next chapter. Cheers to you and your epic life!

XOXO,

Carrie

I'm Woman Shaped, Thank You!

I'm Woman Shaped, Thank You! Blog Carrie Montgomery

I'm Woman Shaped, Thank You!

Are you tired of being compared to a piece of fruit when the fashion industry talks about your body? Yes? Well, so am I!

Let’s talk about a better way of defining your shape, accepting and loving yourself, and finding your true style.

Imagine walking down the street feeling beautiful. In this moment, you have three desires: to feel beautiful, comfortable, and confident. All of a sudden, you catch a glimpse of yourself in the reflection of a grocery store window full of fruit:

Apple and Pear Body Shape Carry Montgomery

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You thought you were this powerful woman, but instead, you think you’re an apple. Bloated belly and stick legs.

This is one way of the many ways the style industry has brainwashed women and done us wrong.

The Apple and the Pear

Most fashion leaves us feeling fruity and a little cray-cray. I mean, how many systems have taught us to look at our bodies like, “Am I an apple body? Am I a pear body?”

How the hell are you supposed to relate to your body when it’s likened to a piece of fruit?

And I don’t know if you know, but it’s really hard to style a piece of fruit.

How can you be happy with your body if you’re looking at it like a round apple or a voluptuous pear?

Your body is filled with ENERGY & EMOTIONS. You have lived through some shit. Your body is trying to tell a story, and sometimes it gets confusing. It’s not about fruit, it’s about how you feel…

My Own Story

When I was at my sickest, I always thought, “What am I? I’m like a big round belly with stick legs.” I was looking at my body that way, rather than relating to my body as organic material, made up of cells that are compiled together so I can create something in life.

To create something in my life, I need to be dressed in something that makes me feel super functional and powerful, not worried about which fruit my body shape resembles.

What to do Instead

1. When you stand in front in a mirror, do you like what you see? Do you really see an apple? Do you really see a pear? No, you see a human being that has lines, structure, ripples, elegance, and a vivacious life force.

Instead of asking yourself, “How do I fit this body into an article of clothing?” it’s more about, “How do I adorn my body to enhance what I have going on?”

2. Connect to your body, and find where your energy and your emotions are stored and what you need to support and enhance yourself.

You can consider whether you need to protect something or release something, so you can understand the elements of style that you need on that given day. It’s a very on-point, intuitive process. It doesn’t have to be a lengthy analysis, it’s acknowledging how you’re feeling.

You can ask yourself, “What am I feeling? Did I feel anxious this morning? Do I need to feel more supported?”

After considering your emotions and energy, you might choose to wear some tight high-waisted pants to help you stand taller or a flowing shirt to help you feel relaxed. If you need to feel more confident, you can wrap a belt around yourself or wear a fun, cool, flowing dress.

The architecture of your body is less about what it looks like and more about how it feels.

Questions to ask Instead of “What Shape am I?”

  • What am I feeling right now?
  • Where in my body am I feeling it?
  • What do I need?
  • Do I need to feel more relaxed?
  • Do I need to feel more supported?
  • Do I need to feel more energized?

Consider what you need to be effective and powerful for that day. You might decide on some kick-ass pants and a silk shirt that make you feel like the goddess you are, so you can rock your day!

When you wake up tomorrow and get dressed for the day, try looking at your body in another way. Ditch what the fashion industry tells you and get into the energy and emotions of your body and what is best for you on this level.

If you are ready to stop putting yourself last and you want to get crystal clear on your style, join the waitlist for Create Your Soul Style. (Opening late October 2018)

Evolution of Style

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You might have guessed this already, but everyone has a different style. No two styles are alike.

And you might be like… ”Carrie, I have no idea what my style is!” (hair raising scream) It’s OK. Seriously, we’ve all been there. I know with all my global moves from cities, to countryside, to islands, to the desert, I have had my fair share of identity (aka STYLE) shifts.

You make choices that resonate with you in your environment. It’s called Bio Individuality or your own Sass! BUT when you start to step out of your arena and are growing into a new space, be it work, a new business venture, or maybe even just taking time off, a new identity arises.

You think,” WTF does that look like?”

How about asking yourself what does that FEEL like?

Do I need soft and cozy? (more athleisure)

Do I need structure and routine? (more form fitted clothes)

Do I need ease and flow? (maxi dress or flowy top)

Do I need support? (high waisted pants, please)

You might think, I need to know what shape that is and how does it fit my size? (remember everyone is different) If I told you that you were a pear shape and needed to wear Aline dresses and we should counter your hip width with broader shoulders, well, there are gonna be some hard feeling convos in there.

But if I asked you how you felt and what your body needed to be as EFFECTIVE and POWERFUL as possible… instinctually you will start to recognize how you feel in your body as a tool… an informant to choosing clothing that makes you feel more CONFIDENT.

We can have avatars of people we think we like or look like and build our style off that. But that’s an outside in perspective. It’s helpful to know what you are attracted to, but it’s more important to know how your body feels and what it needs.

When I first do a discovery with a client, I look at three areas to get perspective of their style and where they want to go.

  1. Lifestyle
  2. Body Image
  3. Body Shape

When you have an understanding of these 3 things, well, you can never go wrong!

Your style will always evolve based on where you are, the weather, your environment, how you feel and what you are doing. But it doesn’t have to be complex.

Try doing a brainstorm exercise and play with your dream style. Grab my Pinterest Worksheet and have fun building out your desired look and feel. I use this with all my students and clients.

Feel free to respond and share me your Pinterest board with me!

XOXO,

Carrie