I'm Woman Shaped, Thank You!
Are you tired of being compared to a piece of fruit when the fashion industry talks about your body? Yes? Well, so am I!
Let’s talk about a better way of defining your shape, accepting and loving yourself, and finding your true style.
Imagine walking down the street feeling beautiful. In this moment, you have three desires: to feel beautiful, comfortable, and confident. All of a sudden, you catch a glimpse of yourself in the reflection of a grocery store window full of fruit:
You - Fruit - You - Fruit.
You thought you were this powerful woman, but instead, you think you’re an apple. Bloated belly and stick legs.
This is one way of the many ways the style industry has brainwashed women and done us wrong.
The Apple and the Pear
Most fashion leaves us feeling fruity and a little cray-cray. I mean, how many systems have taught us to look at our bodies like, “Am I an apple body? Am I a pear body?”
How the hell are you supposed to relate to your body when it’s likened to a piece of fruit?
And I don’t know if you know, but it’s really hard to style a piece of fruit.
How can you be happy with your body if you’re looking at it like a round apple or a voluptuous pear?
Your body is filled with ENERGY & EMOTIONS. You have lived through some shit. Your body is trying to tell a story, and sometimes it gets confusing. It’s not about fruit, it’s about how you feel…
My Own Story
When I was at my sickest, I always thought, “What am I? I’m like a big round belly with stick legs.” I was looking at my body that way, rather than relating to my body as organic material, made up of cells that are compiled together so I can create something in life.
To create something in my life, I need to be dressed in something that makes me feel super functional and powerful, not worried about which fruit my body shape resembles.
What to do Instead
1. When you stand in front in a mirror, do you like what you see? Do you really see an apple? Do you really see a pear? No, you see a human being that has lines, structure, ripples, elegance, and a vivacious life force.
Instead of asking yourself, “How do I fit this body into an article of clothing?” it’s more about, “How do I adorn my body to enhance what I have going on?”
2. Connect to your body, and find where your energy and your emotions are stored and what you need to support and enhance yourself.
You can consider whether you need to protect something or release something, so you can understand the elements of style that you need on that given day. It’s a very on-point, intuitive process. It doesn’t have to be a lengthy analysis, it’s acknowledging how you’re feeling.
You can ask yourself, “What am I feeling? Did I feel anxious this morning? Do I need to feel more supported?”
After considering your emotions and energy, you might choose to wear some tight high-waisted pants to help you stand taller or a flowing shirt to help you feel relaxed. If you need to feel more confident, you can wrap a belt around yourself or wear a fun, cool, flowing dress.
The architecture of your body is less about what it looks like and more about how it feels.
Questions to ask Instead of “What Shape am I?”
- What am I feeling right now?
- Where in my body am I feeling it?
- What do I need?
- Do I need to feel more relaxed?
- Do I need to feel more supported?
- Do I need to feel more energized?
Consider what you need to be effective and powerful for that day. You might decide on some kick-ass pants and a silk shirt that make you feel like the goddess you are, so you can rock your day!
When you wake up tomorrow and get dressed for the day, try looking at your body in another way. Ditch what the fashion industry tells you and get into the energy and emotions of your body and what is best for you on this level.
If you are ready to stop putting yourself last and you want to get crystal clear on your style, join the waitlist for Create Your Soul Style. (Opening late October 2018)