The Road to Playing Big


Do you know how long you will live?  I don’t.  At one point, I thought being  30 was so old. But, of course, now that I’m in my 30’s, I foresee an opportunistic landscape of longevity. Funny how that happens. 

 Last weekend I attended the memorial of my best friend’s father.  The kind words shared by his friends were heart warming, funny and fascinating.  It reminded me what a gift life is and that we are here for a millisecond of the universe’s life span.  

What’s your impact?  What’s your rhythm with the world?  How will we know you have lived your dreams?

An unfulfilled life of regret is not really living.

I would call it more like a living hell.  Listening to the stories about this man, who I have known since I was 3, was a palpable moment of clarity.  Learning about his Vietnam days, the string of medals earned for bravery and honor, stories of his candid and wild spirit filled the church with tears and laughter.  Witnessing 5 men take a stand for their friend and reveal sides of mystery, courage, adventure and supreme intelligence had me stop and think: What have I surmounted to?  I have not served my country; I have not accomplished all my goals; I have not written a book, gotten married, had children….and, the list goes on.  Am I not living my life?  Yes, I am, but comparison cocktails can get you in trouble.  Self-doubt about your track can explode and leak into many areas of your life. 

If you were to continuously partake in the “Comparison Cocktail,”--to paraphrase what my mentor Marie Forleo told me one day when I could not stop looking at other people’s sites--you’d feel so wasted, you’d stumble at the first step.  I was trying to determine the who, what, where, when and how concerning my personal creativity and potential, but I was looking through the filter of others.  Hearing about my friend’s father’s stories reminded me, “live life to YOUR fullest,” “you never know what is around the corner,” “let go of regret!”  I can hear the echo of his masterfully unique voice in my mind telling me to “Go get ‘em, Carrie!”  You really cannot live based off of someone else’s experience; it must come from within you.  Rev up those creative juices, unleash your inner genius and play big or else….the remorse bug kicks in.

How are you going to play big?  Everyone has a different idea of big.  Dig deep and find your current limit of big.  That’s great!  Now dig a little deeper and find another far reaching big.  Here is one of my favorite quotes that keeps dreaming alive for me:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 
― Marianne WilliamsonA Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

Let your passion shine.  Where are you going to play big?

  1. How do you want to be remembered?  What do you want people to say about you?  What is important to you?
  2. Rock this song out, Everything Burns by Shirock
  3. Decide what or whom you are going to take a stand for.  Write it down.  Call someone and tell him or her your decision.

This is only the beginning of the journey.  Stick around for the unfolding of truths!

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Lovin’ you,


In Memory of Franklin Roy Raiter.