The Kinda-Sorta Fit - The Flaw of Modern Day Fashion

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Go into three different stores and try on clothes and chances are, you’re going to “be” three different sizes. Talk about a mental trip. It can be debilitating for many women because we’ve been subconsciously taught for so long that our value and worth depend on the size of our clothes.

Often, we’ll leave feeling like we’re less than, like nothing fits, and overall feeling pretty crappy.

Of course, it’s impossible for you to be three different sizes, so what gives?

Sadly, this kind of experience happens all the time with many of my clients. I have this client who was so annoyed that she had tried on so many different clothes in so many sizes because she thought she knew her size.

Really, this is a reminder that the self-esteem you’re cultivating by creating a style that is specific to you has nothing to do with the number on the tag of a garment. Sure, it’s important to know your size but be okay with the fact that you might be an 8 in one store, a 6 in another, and a 4 somewhere else (we call it the range). Sizing doesn’t depend on what the number on the tag reads – it depends on how the manufacturer cut the clothing.

Your size is not equal to your esteem. You can’t feel bad about your body when you try on clothes because the change in sizing has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the piece of clothing in question.

Like the show, This is Us. On that show, the character Kate wants to fit into a size seven. The way the scene is shot makes us think that she’s not going to fit into it because she is so accustomed to feeling bad about her body that she didn’t know how to feel good. So she couldn’t’ wear the dress that actually fit her at a size seven and instead reinforced the negative body image she was used to and tried on a size five.

Clothes aren’t made to totally fit you. We kind of get lost in that idea, right? It’s so easy to get into a loop of negative self-talk.

But here’s the problem with mass-produced fashion:

The clothes aren’t made to fit your body perfectly; they’re made to kinda-sorta fit everyone.

I know. It sounds too simple to be true. But think about it.

There’s no template version for all clothing manufacturers to use anymore. The sizing system was created to mass-produce clothing, and since you’re the only one of you, there’s no way that stuff right off the rack is going to fit perfectly all the time.

Before the Industrial Revolution, most people didn’t have a ton of clothes. The pieces they had were created specifically for them, which means they rocked each look because the piece fit perfectly!

So there are some ways that you can get around this annoying side effect of the 21st century.

Finding a tailor you love and trust is key. So is figuring out how to try on clothes when you’re shopping. Both of these steps are crucial to making sure that what you’re buying is going to adorn your body in the most perfect way possible.

Really, here’s a chance to relish in the fact that there’s no one like you! When you alter clothing to fit your body, then you’re owning and claiming the piece as being yours, right? Since we all know that once you’ve decided on your style you’ve taken the first step to authenticating your true self, this is something that just has to happen. It’s a key part of the process.

And wow. If that’s not empowering, I don’t know what is!

Download my Top Ten Style Revolution tips that you can use the next time you go shopping to help avoid this loop of negativity.

 

Xo

Carrie


 
 

 
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Soul Style Spotlight, Michelle Cady

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Are you ever curious how women build their brands? Well, I have some juicy details for you today.

Yup, a Soul Style Spotlight. When I get to bring women I have worked with to the forefront of my brand, well, you can picture it….happy dance in my office (and yes, I do have my white sneakers with gold studs on)!

Honestly, I wouldn't be here if it weren't for every woman who has trusted me with their bodies and brands and invested in working with me.

It is such an honor to do this work. To guide women into their bodies and true selves through style. Sounds so strange and, yes, I too used to judge the validity of style. I totally thought style was just fashion and well fashion was superficial. All of that stopped when a handful of women asked for help, and I could step up to the plate. My business was truly born then, and I have never looked back.

I got to let go of the years of struggle and step into the true gifts I have been cultivating my whole life. Guess what? My clients come to me with the desire to express their true gifts and talents with a solid image that feels authentic, distinct, and powerful.

So without further adieu, meet Michelle.

Health Coach and up-and-coming author Michelle Cady of fitvista.com decided it was time to up her business style for her new book cover. We talked about how she wanted to feel and what that looked like. We discovered where she was with her style and how to bring her business along. With a couple of tweaks and small added touches, we created more flow and a bit more edge to her look.

The result? A beautiful, authentic summary of her transformation from a conservative finance girl who has stepped out into the fitness industry and then transitioned into the holistic health and lifestyle world. Since she’s gone through three career transitions, you can imagine that figuring out what to wear on the daily, let alone a photo shoot, can be pretty frustrating for her. But to see her wardrobe match her Elegant Heroine style archetype felt rewarding and empowering. She understands why she’s wearing something, when to wear it, and how to source it.

Check out this conversation between Michelle and me.

In the video you’ll learn:

Why Michelle made the career shift into Health Coaching. (We all can use a reminder of our “why.”)

Michelle’s story of personal stress was a huge catalyst to change her life and career. She went from finance to wellness and really knows how to work with clients who are busy, stressed-out professionals either working in a corporate environment or entrepreneurs on their own.

But more importantly, check out what she has to say about the identity change and how finding her style archetype gave her the freedom and clarity to step into her new style.

Since Michelle’s career was in finance, the dress code was clear-cut, but since she had never really done that in-between style of fancy jeans and a nice blouse and cool shoes for work, she just didn’t know how to show up. More importantly, after following me for awhile, she knew she wanted to have clothes that would help her feel more confident.

The confusing thing is that Michelle felt her style was a blur all the time.She was blending kind of classic preppy, but sporty, but trying to be edgy all the time, and then a little hippie. But when she shopped, it was a selection of this and that, and nothing really matched and she was a different person in different outfits. She was really drawn to the idea of the style archetype and really wanted to narrow down to who she really is.

Lastly, we chat about the power of style strategy to get photo-ready for her brand shoot.

Michelle found an amazing NYC photographer who is just the coolest woman. Her photographer was amazed at how well-planned for a photo shoot she was. What I love it how Zen Michelle felt on the day of. She wasn’t stressed out or anxious about the clothes because she knew what jewelry went with what clothes. Well, that’s because we planned, planned, planned!  And she nailed it. See it for yourself here.

Here is the beauty of the true inner and outer style work. You transform! And in the end, you are left with this beautiful manifestation you can look at and, “Woot, woot! I did it!”

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing your hard work coming into the physical world.  It takes dedication, a vision, passion and a deep desire to see a result.

We created a plan, and Michelle nailed it. I'm so proud of her for just digging in and saying, "Well, this is the process. I'm going to go in and just do it." And we did this all virtually, too, which is so cool.

We don’t do this biz and life thing on our own. Your business, your career, and your life are all asking you to step into your true identity.

Check out Michelle’s new site fitvista.com and be on the lookout for her upcoming book launch. You do not want to miss this one.

With love and style,

Carrie

How to Make a Statement of You

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With the new year here, it’s time to give your business style a promotion! Creating a statement wardrobe helps you step up your business game and get noticed.  There’s truth to the phrase “dress for success,” and you, my friends, are made for success.

How do you know it’s time to take the leap? Keep reading.

First things first. Every good statement starts with a good foundation.

What makes a good foundation?

Comfort. Comfort brings confidence. You must be comfortable with your basic go-to clothes before we create a statement. These are your bread and butter, your must-haves, your happy place.

A foundation wardrobe includes:

  • 2 pairs of jeans: A combination of ripped, clean, skinny, bootleg, flare, or high-waisted – whatever is you.
  • 2 pairs of dress pants
  • 3-4 sweaters: Stick to color tones from your color board.
  • 3-4 button-down shirts or dress shirts
  • 6 t-shirts
  • 3-4 dresses
  • 2-3 coats
  • 2 workout pants
  • 10 pairs of underwear
  • 2 bras
  • 2 boots
  • 2 heels
  • 2 sneakers – one pair for working out, one for casual
  • 2 flats

Be sure these are high-quality pieces. These are the pieces that will go the distance with you. They’re worth investing in.

If you are not sure how to even begin building your colors and styles, check out how to build a Pinterest Style board here.

Bring on the Statement!

Once the high-quality foundation pieces are in place, it’s time to add the sugar and spice. Throw a statement piece into the mix. This might look like layering patterns, textures, or accessories on your foundation. Pair a black shirt and jeans with a statement blazer and heels and head out the door!

How do you know what statement is truly you? Keep your Style Archetype in mind. What fits with your personal brand and the direction you want to go?

Pro tip: Statement pieces come and go as trends change. Unless a statement piece is essential to who you are, you don’t have to spend a lot of money on it. I always recommend buying statement pieces at a fast fashion rate when you know it’s not a piece you’ll keep forever.

The Time Is Now

When will you know it’s time to step up? You may never be 100% sure, but there will come a now-or-never moment when you’re like, “I’ve just got to do it.” So, do it! You work hard, you’re making strides, and opportunities keep coming your way. Jump on board, take the plunge, and hold onto that super cute statement hat!

Things to Remember

Hire a stylist or invest in your style education. Because this is a make-or-break-it moment, a stylist can help you create a capsule wardrobe of basics and pick out some statement pieces. When you can’t define what statements are you, it’s time to invest in someone to help you get there.

So what are you waiting for? Your personal brand and your business career are ready. Lead the way!

What one statement piece can you not live without? Why? Let me know in the comments below.

 

Xo

Carrie


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Soul Style Spotlight - Jaimee Roncone

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Hi Beauties!

I'm so thrilled to introduce you to past Create Your Soul Style student, Jaimee Roncone. In this interview, Jaimee shares about her recovery from breast cancer and the emotional, physical and spiritual integration of her new breasts into her style as part of that recovery. I am so honored to have been a small part of her journey.

I know you'll find Jaimee's story as touching as I did.


A little bit about Jaimee...

Jaimee is a Health and Wellness Navigator, certified as a Health Coach and Life Coach from Health Coach Institute.

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Jaimee has years of experience in the Health and Wellness field, starting with receiving her certification for massage from East-West College for the Healing Arts in Portland, Oregon in 1999.  She has a background in myofascial, deep tissue, structural integration, hot stone massage, and zen shiatsu and is being trained and certified in Craniosacral Therapy, Lymphatic Drainage Therapy, Oncology Massage and Massage Cupping/Vacutherapies.

After over 17 years of serving her community through massage and bodywork (since 2003 in Easthampton), Jaimee created Healing Tree Health and Wellness Center as a way to network with a community of healers and offer a gorgeous, quiet, and comfortable space that is reachable and convenient for all.  Her mission has been to house amazing practitioners and healers, experts in their fields, to provide the best options for all her clients to reach and attain their goals in health and healing to live the best life they can.  She has created a space that feels like a warm cocoon to get away and reset in the midst of our crazy lives.

Jaimee has a deep vision and passion for service, especially after her second diagnosis of breast cancer metastasis.  Her journey has deepened her goals and vision for a more supported and deeply connected community and desire to support other women who have had a breast cancer diagnosis and feel scared, helpless, and alone.  She was there.  She hopes to help women navigate this scary place and find their place and healing and empowerment on their own journey.  Every woman's journey is their own, and it should be led by heart, compassion, and understanding.


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Soul Style Spotlight - Titlayo Ali

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Hi Beauties!

I'm so thrilled to introduce you to past Create Your Soul Style student, Titilayo Ali. I can't pretend I wasn't honored/touched/moved when she said this, "I have done years of personal development, this is the best transformational program I have ever taken." Goosebumps.

Please enjoy Titilayo's transformation story:


A little bit about Titilayo...

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Titilayo Tinubu Ali is on a mission to help women increase their earning potential, expand their career options, and gain the skills to fly solo whenever they want to or need to. She is founder and CEO of Own Your Expertise, a professional development company that teaches women how to turn their 9-to-5 skills into consulting opportunities. 

Alongside her career as an attorney and education researcher, she has been an independent consultant serving in a variety of legal, management and communications roles across the nonprofit, corporate, philanthropic and political sectors. Her published writing and research has shaped the development of education systems in the United States, Canada and Ireland and she is a co-author of The Road to High-Quality Early Learning: Lessons from the States. She has managed a seven-county U.S. congressional campaign and has been the brainchild of multi-market media campaigns for nonprofits and social causes that have successfully placed news stories on CNN, NBC, ABC, FOX, and NPR.

Seeking to equip women with the skills she's used to navigate her career, she developed Own Your Expertise, a hybrid business and leadership development program for early- and mid-career professionals. She routinely trains and speaks in college, university and corporate settings on how new and emerging professionals can develop personal brands and take an entrepreneurial approach to designing their careers. She is a certified NxLeveL entrepreneurship instructor trained to coach new business owners through laying the marketing and strategy foundations for their new ventures.

Titilayo earned a law degree from UC Berkeley, a master's degree in sociology and education policy from Columbia University, and a bachelor's degree in English, with honors, from Spelman College. She lives in Colorado with her husband and twin sons.


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Clearing Your Closet to Make Room for the New You

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With the turn of the calendar, everyone is looking for ways to make this year be the best possible. Not only does this mean setting attainable goals, but it also means taking a closer look at what you’re wearing.

We all know that your clothes help define your core style and branding. So it makes sense to look first at our wardrobes when we’re mapping out how to conquer the New Year.

The process of removing items from your closet that are holding you back is how you create the space for who you want to be in 2018. We all have a past. It’s an important part of our lives, but it doesn’t have to be the deciding factor on who we’re going to be in the future.

The single most important thing to remember when you’re tackling a closet overhaul is this: Who do you want to be?

When I’m working with clients, I try to undercover exactly where she’s put the most effort in her life. That’s where I can begin to understand the story of her life. For lots of us, we face the same problems and obstacles over and over, just in different guises. The challenge here is to take a closer look at the past and find that theme. We have to acknowledge the past in order to move forward. Otherwise, it will continue to hold you back.

When we look at the past, we can look at the present with clearer vision. When you start being present with what moment you’re in right now, then you can step into where you want to be.

Step-by-Step: My Best Tips for Creating a Style that Fits You Now

First things first. Get a piece of paper or your journal and write down the vision of who you are and what you want from your life. Remember to consider what you’re wearing, how you interact with others, and how you show up in the world.

Your style and closet should be a reflection of that vision. It’s a manifestation of what’s going on inside.

Create a clean slate in your closet. Creating an environment that supports this vision of your true self will ultimately make it easier to reach your goals.

What to do/ Things to remember: My advice on what to keep and get rid of differs drastically from what many other people recommend. It’s a good idea to physically remove every single item from your closet. Touching these garments helps you evaluate or dismiss any value they might have.

Permission to keep: As much fun as it would be to get rid of everything and really start fresh, that’s just not practical. You have to know when it’s harming or when a piece is helping. I have a handmade red vesty-jacket thing that I got in London at a flea market. I never wear it, but I’ll never get rid of it because it represents a moment in time that I’m actively seeking out. It’s not practical to keep it, but it’s important. Think about these things when you evaluate your own items.

Get rid of: Anything ripped, stained, yellowed, or looks tattered - think about it this way – what you keep is on a subconscious level how you really feel about yourself. No one wants to think that badly about themselves, so toss the trash and move on. You can keep those perfectly ripped jeans or the tee-shirt that is complimenting the rocker look!

Consider carefully: Clothes that don’t fit are a touchy subject. On one hand, it’s not completely ideal to keep clothes that seriously don’t fit. But if they’re close to fitting and you occasionally can fit into them, maybe it’s a good idea to keep a few pieces. Of course, you should get rid of them if the clothes make you feel badly about yourself.

If you haven’t worn it in a year: It makes sense to hold onto certain investment pieces. But if you have a closet full of ball gowns and you haven’t been to a ball in a decade, it’s time to rethink their purposes.

Finally, fill in any missing gaps in your closet.

Making goals for the New Year is only half of the equation when you’re trying to work out how to be the best possible version of yourself. You have to think about what you’re putting on your body, how you’re showing up in the world. A closet overhaul is really the best place to start.

So ask yourself, how do you want to align yourself with your goals and vision? Share your thoughts with me in the comments below!
 

Xo

Carrie


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Soul Style Spotlight - Sweta Chawla

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Hi Beauties!

I'm so thrilled to introduce you to past Create Your Soul Style student, Sweta Chawla.

My favorite thing about her journey with the program is how she's fully tapping into her newly grounded spirit and using it to follow the signs to build a strong foundation for her business.

I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did!


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A little bit about Sweta...

Dr. Sweta Chawla is a self-expression expert and founder of the Make Your World Bigger Movement. After 17 years in the Profession of Pharmacy, she took a leap of faith and left her decade long career as a Professor and took a deep-dive into her soul and came out a Loquacious Soul Coach/Story Teller/Emcee and Life Style Advocate. Her mission is to support ambitious, loyal, responsible other-focused women to finally take the space and time to focus on themselves. She helps them experience Balance, Belonging and Beauty from the inside out through her unique spiritually grounded system, Unique Harmony. Her approach is about giving permission to want it all on YOUR terms without having to do it alone. Instead feeling magically supported. When she's not "working" she's either salsa dancing, Bollywood jamming or traveling the world with her family or alone.


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Soul Style Spotlight - Emily Shaules

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Hey Beauties!

I'm so thrilled to introduce you to past Create Your Soul Style student, Emily Shaules.

Her journey with the program is such an inspiration, especially how she's used her newfound style identity to give her the confidence she needed to manifest a powerful, new investor in her company (the one and only, Jason Mraz!!)

I hope you find as much inspiration from the interview as I did!
 


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A little bit about Emily...

Emily Shaules is the Founder and Chief Shift Officer (CSO) of Shift Bars, the world’s first organic energy bar with only 1 gram of sugar. Shift Bars, launching in early 2018, is the manifestation of Emily’s passion for healthy food, conscious living, and business done with integrity. A former attorney and professional actor, Emily currently lives in Asheville, NC and loves hiking, animals, movies and dancing. Keep in touch with her at www.shiftbars.com.


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How to Use Style Micro-Manifestations to Get Anything You Want

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Hey Beauty,

Happy New Year!  I bet you are welcoming 2018 with a scarf around your neck.  It seems the temps have dropped everywhere here in the States.

Are you ready to take 2018 by storm?

Let’s start making it happen.

I like to start with something I call, Micro-Manifestations. They are a way of listening to your inner voice. These manifestations end up making you look good and feel good. When you’re in the right mindset, the world is yours.

This is a perfect time to start putting these manifestations into place. 2018 and your best year yet have literally started!

How to use style Micro-Manifestations to get what you want

It begins with knowing what you want and how you’ll feel when you receive it. Then you can use style to create those feelings NOW. The best part? All of this information is already inside of you.

When you’re present, big changes can happen on minute levels.

This starts with the most basic choices and stretches outward far beyond your outfit choices.

When you meet the needs of your body on a micro-manifestation level, it sets in motion a cascade of positive benefits. Adorn and serve your body because this allows you to open the door to something greater. You can activate that greater container because you have a super strong foundation already in place.

Even if you don’t know what you want for 2018, by just focusing on these micro-manifestations, you will get there. Sounds crazy, but it’s true. You'll be shown the way and because you’re listening to your body and giving her what she needs, this allows you to show up and receive.

Know that old saying, “Fake it till you make it”? It sort of applies here, too. Except this isn’t just your outfit – it’s your energy, feelings, and emotions.

Here’s how this process works:

When you magnify your soul, the world can see you without the chaos created from your external image. Without insecurities clouding the world, it’s a clear, direct filter to your energy.

Basically, cast yourself in the role as your vision of the role. What you’re going to sell to yourself and the world is yourself in that vision. You sell that vision because you believe in yourself. It’s an inner and outer manifestation. It sounds crazy, right? Way too simple. But trust me, it works.

Let’s work through an example:

You need to feel: CONFIDENCE THAT YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING
Type of situation: Job Interview, Getting on Stage, Sales Conversation
 

Step 1: Where are you feeling fear, anxiety, or unease in the body around this upcoming situation? Often people experience fear in the stomach.

Step 2: Pick an article of clothing that will give you support and reinforcement in this area of your body. For example: high-waisted pants or a wide belt.

Step 3: Ask yourself where do you feel love? When you’re a heart-centered person and you start projecting the passion and love, that energy is going to be communicated out into the world.

Step 4: Pick an article of clothing or piece of jewelry to enhance this area. You can enhance that area either by using a piece of jewelry or by wearing a deep V-neck, which would help you signal to the world that you’re energetically embracing self-love. It’s a small micro-manifestation. It almost makes you overtly conscious of the need to project love. Look for something to enhance and highlight the heart area.

Step 5: Add a comfort layer that you can decide to shed when it’s time or keep on depending on how you feel in the moment. You can wear a really high-quality cashmere wrap sweater or wrap your body in a way that it feels safe and protected. It’s okay to toe the line here a little bit. I mean, we can’t always walk around in performance mode. Knowing when to serve your body so that you can do that next level is super important. Everyone's going to feel vulnerable and nervous. It's okay to have an extra layer, and then right before you get on stage, you take that layer off. We want to see you!

Step 6: Show up and shine. Release and receive. You’ve dressed the part, supported your energy, and now it’s time to let the energy do the rest.
 

Every day we have a choice. We choose how we adorn our bodies. We choose what we’re going to project. Micro-manifestations seem like really small actions, but when you start using them on a daily basis, you’ll be amazed at the results. It’s as if what you begin to project to the world is completely refreshed. You’re stronger, fiercer, clearer.

So how will you use micro-manifestations in 2018 to get what you want?

Xo
Carrie


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